How Do You Cope with Suicide?
Robbie always complained that we
never had any of his pictures around!
It is with great sadness and an emptiness in my Heart
as this is the last Picture I have of him!
Robbie complained to me 1 day,while he was staying here.
I asked him,What's the matter Rob?
He Replied,"I don't belong here! I belong with my Family!!
Especially the baby!!
Sadly a family
that was never to be!
Robbie Loved Children,even if they weren't his!
He offered so much Love but
got rejection
and heartache in return!
My Personal thoughts on How do you cope with Suicide?
How do you cope with Suicide?
You Don't cope with suicide!
Your whole life changes dramatically!
Your emotions
are ripped out completely!
Your mind goes numb as does your heart!
You try and look
for answers?While you tear
you inner being Apart emotionally and physically
As you try to
rationalize this horrific tragedy!
Even now I still look for Robbie Every day and Nite.
In my Mind and in my Heart I know that
he's gone
As I wear the necklace he had on when I found him!
In my heart among the emptiness,pain and sorrow
Is the hope that's it's not true but just a Dream
I had the tragic moment when I found Robbie
Hanging from
the tree in my backyard!
I hoped when I found him I wasn't to late!
Unfortunately for me
I was to late.
As I grabbed him to try and release him
,His body was already getting Hard!
I held him close as I cut him down
And I laid my son on the ground!
I removed the rope from
around his neck.
The last thing I did was as my son
Was laying there on the ground,
I looked
into his eyes!!!
I'll never forget that.
To me my son was saying,
"I'm sorry Dad I couldn't
Deal with life anymore!
Please Forgive ME!!
As I write this and re-read for mistakes
The tears and hurt begin again!
Right or wrong!
My Son
I will always LOVE YOU!.
Author : Dad
Loss by Author: Unknown
Emotional Side of Suicide/Violent Loss
1. Generally it takes 18- 24 months just to stabilize after the death of a
family member or loved one. It can take much longer when the death was a
violent one. Recognize the length of the mourning process. Beware of
developing unrealistic expectations of yourself.
2. Your worst times usually are not at the moment a tragic event takes place.
Then you're in a state of shock of numbness. Often you slide "into the pits"
or body slam as we call it . That is normally at the 3 and 7 months after the
event. Strangely, when you're in the pits and temped to despair, may be the
time when most people expect you to be over your loss.
3. When people ask you how you are doing don't always say, Fine, ok. Let some
people know how terrible you feel.
4. Talking with a true friend or with others who've been there and survived
can be very helpful. Those that have been there speak your language. Only
they can really say, "I know, I understand, you are not alone."
5. Often depression is a cover for anger. Learn to uncork your bottle and
find appropriate ways to release your bottled up anger. What you're going
through seems unfair and un-just.
6. It may be necessary to spend some time feeling sorry for yourself. "Pity
parties" sometimes are necessary and can be therapeutic, as long as you don't
stay there to long.
7. It's all right to cry, to question, to be weak. Beware of allowing
yourself to be "put on a pedestal" by others who tell you what a inspiration
you are because of your strength and your ability to cope so well. If they
only knew.
8. Remember you may be a rookie at the experience you're going through. This
is probably the first violent death you've coped with. You're new at this and
you don't know what to do or how to act. You need help.
9. Reach out and try to help others in some small way at least. This little
step forward may help prevent you from dwelling on yourself.
10. Many times of crisis ultimately can become times of opportunity.
Mysteriously your faith in yourself, in others, and in God can be deepened
through crisis. Seek out persons who can serve as a symbol of hope to you.
Being a victim is a state of mind-dictated by others.
A survivor dictates their own state of mind.
A victim-fears the moments of grief.
A survivor-welcomes those moments!
A victim knows about feeling down and tries to stay up.
A survivor knows feeling down is okay.
A victim tries hard to hide the tears.
A survivor never leaves home without kleenex.
A victim struggles to maintain a state of normalcy.
A survivor knows normal no longer exists.
A victim gets caught in isolation.
A survivor reaches out when they need to.
A victim is afraid they in time will forget.
A survivor knows they never will!!
A victim sometimes feels guilty laughing.
A survivor laughs through their tears.
A victim tries at times to block out the memories.
A survivor embraces memories of all kinds.
A victim wants someone to cure their grief.
A survivor just wants someone to share their journey.
A victim struggles to get over their grief.
A survivor fights to get through it.
A victim tries to get on with their life.
A survivor lives their life knowing nothing will ever be the same.
A victim says oh I'm okay-then secretly cries.
A survivor openly cries-and says I'm okay.
Author: Unknown
Why Robbie Committed Suicide!
Why am I writing this?
How 2 Women and 1 man can destroy a person,
emotionally and mentally!
For everyone to know just how evil,lying and coniving they are!
Karen Case,Clearwater,Florida.
The mother of his twin boys who refused him the right to see his Children!
She took away
his children,
Wouldn't even let me or my family see them since they were 3 months old!
That
was 5 1/2 years ago!!!
She only lives 25 miles away!
She even took his Driving License away
Making
it impossibile for Robbie to find a decent job!!!
Brandy Ververs,Port Richey,Florida.
The woman who bore his last child had different plans.
she didn't even give his child
his last Name!
When the baby was born she refused to see Robbie
or let Robbie see his Newborn Baby!
To make
matters worse,they had agreed to name the baby
if it was a boy to Robbie 3rd.That didn't happen either!
As she has been with his friend Chris Nelson of New Port Richey,Florida!
Even after Robbie's Death,they have been living together!
Karen Case,Brandy Ververs and Chris Nelson
are RESPONSIBLE for My Son's Suicide!
What do I say to those 3 Persons?
To Karen Case and Brandy Ververs,
the women who had his children and took them away from him,
One
day those children will
grow up and the Truth will come out!
God help you when it does!
To Chris Nelson!
You stabbed your friend in the back!
Even after you were told to Stay away!
None of your friends want
nothing to do with you either!
What goes around comes around!
To these 3 people,
this tragic event didn't even bother them!
Vengeance is Mine thus Sayeth the Lord!
Final Words For Robbie
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In Memory Of Loved Ones Lost
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Robbie's Service
Farewell to Robbie
At Peace
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